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I dont know how many of you guys know, but I am the admin of a facebook page dedicated to fans of this site (https://www.facebook.com/groups/1418685195068872/ ). I and some others often post content there related to or linked to stuff posted here, and it occurred to me that perhaps if some of you have social media accounts on sites such as Twitter or others and are willing to do so, you could give this place the occasional push on those sites. The more people know we exist, the more may check us out, and some of those may decide to hang around and join the fun.

Just a thought.

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Not a fan of social media

Especially farcebook.

Since we are a moderated site with relatively few admins there are bound to be asshats who would love to dump on us just to burden the admins and harrass the users.

Just my two dimes.

Just be careful

If something on (anti-)social media gets too popular the bozos climb on the bandwagon get high on bringing it down in flames.
Many of us are not 'out'. It would be tragic if someone was outed on SM by accident. A place like this would be a nice juicy target for some sections of society especially with a 'dear leader' spouting off about about how bad and evil is it was recently.

I never felt the need to join and of those platforms so I might be totally wrong in which case, I apologise.

Samantha

Unlike others, I won't

Unlike others, I won't pretend to give a damn about what you are trying to do and act like I'm contributing but really just dumping on Facebook because it's the popular thing to do, I'll actually try to help you:

Make it private immediately, for the safety of all members there. It's currently public so anyone can see its contents and especially its members list. Even if people are careful with separating their private lives from their public lives, it's still a huge security issue for the group. Even if the members scrub any identification from their profiles, there's still the chance that outsiders could react to it especially as people are sharing articles and links that could be traced backed to the group.

I'd even go a step further and make it private- by invitation only. That way you can further filter those who want to join as you'd select and approve who joins the group. It's not trying to keep out people(I know damn well I'd be one who would cause a revolt if allowed to join) but rather it's a way of ensuring that those who join are there because they want to be there for the right reasons and not to get blackmail material or harm the members.

Now excuse me while I crawl back under the rock or go back under the bridge that I belong under.

I'm told STFU more times in a day than most people get told in a lifetime

No No No

mountaindrake's picture

You got room under that rock or bridge for a dragon to hide too face book is more of a security risk than windows edge browser stay away from it please.

Have a good day and enjoy life.

Don't go to that bridge just yet.

What you are saying makes perfect sense. FB is a disaster waiting to happen to a lot of LGBT people who are in the closet.
Samantha

It looks like someone listened to you.

WillowD's picture

BCTS and Facebook are two sites I look at at least several times a day. I didn't know about the BCTS Facebook group and just tried to join it. It asked me why I want to join and forwarded my answer to the admins.

So, Dorothy Colleen, may I join. Pretty please. You know how much I luurrrrvvveee you. (Hmm. Somehow that particular blandishment doesn't work so well when you've never actually met the person. Snerk.)

It's a quandary

Be out and confident to enjoy life like some of the protagonists in the stories, or hide under a rock, or be persecuted like some of the protagonists in the stories. I've only revealed my inner female (and I think i'm a tweener that fits, or not, in-between genders) to a few, but have had good reactions from them. Of course I live in California so that's a plus. I have decided that self shame or denial of who I am only emboldens the bullys and bigots that want to gatekeep their power over me.

Being older gives me a perspective that I care less about other's perceptions than a younger person might too. But damn, I missed a lot by hiding my inner self when I was young.

To say facebook is a security risk

Monique S's picture

is probably the understatement of the year. Just think of all the data they collect or the fact, that THEY own all the pics you out on there. Then look closely at the videos of the squirming, slimy owner in the enquiry.

Do I need to say more?

Monique S

Security risk

mountaindrake's picture

What only the understatement of the year. Well one can only try so hard for an understatement,I was hoping for better oh well,

Have a good day and enjoy life.

Yeah... I'd join, but

As others have said, Facebook is public quicksand from which there is no escape. I shun just about ALL social media, not because I am afraid of anything, but I believe they create an atmosphere of electronic dependence regarding contacts between people. IMHO, this is what's wrong with society today. Person to person contact has gone by the wayside. People don't TALK to one another any more. They go about with their smartphone stuck in their faces, thumbs frantically typing messages and completely ignore real live people trying to get out of their way.

The best example of this is a pic I saw of several teenagers sitting together at a table. Every one of them had their face buries in their smartphone and NONE of them were actually interacting with any of the others seated at the very same table!

So... thanks anyway Dorothy. I'm gonna opt out for those reasons and one other that has been mentioned by others in this thread. Privacy. I'm not stealth by any means, but I don't need hassles coming from haters who learn my email address or worse, my real one from some social media website.

Nice idea hon, but fraught with too much danger for me.

Love your stories though.

Catherine Linda Michel

As a T-woman, I do have a Y chromosome... it's just in cursive, pink script. Y_0.jpg

Facebook is a small plus and a big Abyss

BarbieLee's picture

Lots of people do great marketing on Facebook, Youtube, and many other social sites. All of these sites are black holes as anything posted is legally theirs to use anyway they want in their host agreement contracts.
All that said, yes I'm on Facebook. I receive twenty to forty friend requests a day. The only things I have posted there are my picture and my name. No bio, no other information. The only reason I logged into Facebook and many other sites back in the early nineties was to keep everyone from using my name. Didn't work out like I wanted. Years later others lost their fear of Mattel since I didn't disappear and they were really creative getting around the name lock.
Oh well, as a word of caution, do NOT put anything out there on any social pages without reading what you are signing into. It's like the job I applied for as a chemist. Their contract, everything I designed, invented, created, compiled, made once I was employed by them was theirs. Yes it was that broad. I wasn't blonde enough to sign their contract. Facebook only received my agreement to their contract because what becomes theirs to use anyway they want only applies to what I post on Facebook.
Be smart, stay safe, protect what is yours.
always,
Barb

Oklahoma born and raised cowgirl

Social Interaction

If I wasn't on fb I wouldn't be talking to anybody.

That said, there is a way to adjust who can send you friend requests. I get less than a dozen a year, mostly from friends of friends. I have a small circle of friends, most of us were friends over on dA and it got so bad there that we pulled up stakes and moved. Many of them are artists and sought a larger audience. Many have since set up on Patrone so we just bs on fb, as well as look after each other. Kinda like we used to do here.*

Patrone is a nonstarter for me. Even at a dollar/month per person, if I became members of just my friends and a few of their acquaintances whose art I like I'd be forking out over $50 per month. That's a full tank of gas. Patrone will just have to do without me. Twitter seems like a cesspool writ large; and IG just never made the cut for some reason.

fb is what you make of it. Looking for a thousand likes? Probably not gonna like what comes with that. Content with small numbers like I am (just see my kudos count!)? Then fb can be a nice place.

YMMV

*Of course in those days everybody knew everybody else and it was possible to follow every comment as there were maybe a dozen comments a day. BC has grown a bit since then.


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