It doesn't seem possible to get a date

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Cliff

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I want to meet a nice feminine t-woman, but don't like many of the people I see at the clubs and bars. Every site I look for on the net is a sex site. I don't know where to find a straightforward dating spot. MY GOD, I JUST WANT TO GO ON A DATE!!!

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sorry hon

your best bet may be placing an ad online. I figure I'll never have a date either, but ah, well

Dorothycolleen

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Simple question: why a 't-woman'? Obviously, I can only speak for myself, but I identify as a woman without the 'T'. Most men looking for what you describe seem to be looking purely for sex, hence the internet search results you are getting.

Yes... This entry...

Disturbs me on multiple levels.

Cliff, I would suggest you try rephrasing if you meant something other than how it's coming across.

Abigail Drew.

You're pretty much right Steph.

Looking for (and I apologise if this expression offends,) tee-girls or t-women in clubs and bars is almost a certain recipe for failure. Most girls who have transitioned tend to want to leave the hurt and painful memories behind them and the last place they would look for a partner would be a transgendered bar or club. Most of my 'post-op' friends have met me at genteel house parties or organised formal get-to-gethers where they feel at ease and unthreatened. I send out clear messages loud and clear, NO SEX PLEASE I'M Beverly!

Post op-girls tend to be more at ease with this although my 'in-your-face' attitude causes them to sometimes raise an eyebrow when I deliberately flaunt my inter-genderism in public.

Only about four of my 'post op' friends are prepared to go out with me on daylight shopping expeditions because my 'in-your-face' attitude has as much to do with my LGBT 'political agenda' as it has to do with my intergenderism. Incidentally, I have about six to twelve regular transvestite friends who knock around Cardiff on Saturday shopping trips but that's another ball-game entirely.

Most post op girls simply want a 'quiet life' and to escape what's been hurting them for years. They usually try everywhichway to go 'stealth' and it hurts like hell if they have difficulty doing this if they can't 'pass'.

I have to say myself that most of the supposedly 'real men' hanging around trans-bars tend to be 'Tranny-f-----s' or as Steph more politely calls, them tranny-chasers. These characters are a real pain for they are, in the main, pretty seedy individuals who are only looking for gratification. This circumstance therefore tends to drive post op girls away from such seedy haunts (and boy some of them are seedy!!).

Girls don't want this. It's very unlikely that you'll find a decent, genuinely caring girl in a tee-bar if she's looking for a genuine long-term relationship.

Bev.

I didn't mean to offend

The reason is that I have a slight physical and cognitive problem and all through my life I've found it hard to date any woman. I just thought someone from a more understanding background would be someone I could get to know better. Sorry if I insulted anyone.

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I wasn't offended, Cliff, just puzzled. I am assuming that there is a hope that someone who was once 'male' may be more understanding of your difficulties, but in reality we are all different. Can I suggest you examine what it is you are hoping for, and then talk to someone who might be able to throw a light on why you have the difficulties you describe?

Any offence taken comes from the experience of the 'tranny chaser', which is what those sex sites cater for.