040) Was that a guy?

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I know, it's been a while since I blogged last... Honestly, my life's gotten pretty boring of late. It's the same story day after day, I go to work, eat, play some games, read some stuff on BCTS, occasionally try to write my stories that I'm really horrible about updating... And I'm getting absolutely no where with my transition goals. I'm not getting any closer to being able to afford health insurance (that covers transition), and my family and close associates still insist this is just some "phase" at best. At worst, they're like my mom and are refusing to believe it's happening at all.

However, today something really really cool happened... again, it was at work, again, it was a snippet of conversation from the kids on property. The middle schoolers had just gotten off the bus and a bunch of boys were walking past me when one of them said "hi" to me, I returned his salutation, and he turned to one of his buddies and was like "was that a guy?", his buddy firmly stated, "that's a girl", and then a third guy is like, "hey dude".

I was literally on cloud nine for like an hour afterwards. I mean, I wasn't even trying, I mean, I wasn't trying to disguise my slight breast development or modest curves, but at the same time I hadn't shaved my face that morning, and I never do use anything to try to hide my stubble or shadow anyways. I don't think I did anything special with my voice or anything when I said hi either... But still, the second boy had absolutely no doubt in his mind that my gender was female. Further, the first had doubts that I was male. Whilst the third apparently was certain of my masculinity, I don't really know, maybe "dude" is gender neutral anymore? I honestly don't follow childrens slang. Still, two of three, that's batting pretty good for not even trying.

Kids...

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For what it's worth...

I seem to get "recognized" as a girl when I'm NOT trying at all, than when I'm trying a little. Go figure.

It feels good to be recognized (well, most of the time). LOL

Enjoy!

Annette

Just being your self.

Just being your self is what people Que on. It is your authentic self that was and is showing through. When we are trying it looks like we are acting, when we just are the girl or boy in us show through the surface what ever that surface might look like at the moment. We will be seen as our authentic self.
Good feeling is it not and you just were being your self.
Love
Sister Misha

The only bad question is the one not asked.

Well,

I meant trying in a softer way, like, just shaving and using a little makeup to hide the beard shadow, maybe be a little more conscious of my voice and make sure I keep to my head voice. I really don't mean to affect any fake effeminate persona. I'm female, I know it, I don't need to do anything weird about it, but there are certain cues of my birth gender that I could at least try to hide, and that's the trying I was referring to.

Abigail Drew.