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so let me set the record straight. Tina and I ONLY have a platonic relationship. That all it has ever been, that's all it will ever be, and I am FINE with that. It's being completely alone in the house that has me spooked. As for a pet...NO freaking way. Been there, been tied down by it, Won't do it again.
I hope this clears things up from my last blog.
Cathy
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Blogs or Dogs
I think you would like two dogs to keep you company and sane!
Did you know in the land of OZ if it's very cold it's called a 5 Dog night, they keeep you warm, but I worry about the fleas!
I think there was a band called '5 dog night', probably lot's of howling etc!
Anyway if you need a hand with some different dog names, give me a yell!
Spot, dog, girl, hey-you, eat, sit, ????
LoL
Rita
Age is an issue of mind over matter.
If you don't mind, it doesn't matter!
(Mark Twain)
LoL
Rita
I appreciate what you are saying and why you're saying it, but
having been tied down for the last 30 years or so by a pet, I refuse to go that route again. And it's a three dog night, like the band...who I never cared for very much for anyway.
Thanks anyway.
Cathy
As a T-woman, I do have a Y chromosome... it's just in cursive, pink script.
I'm sure...
...there are plenty of low-maintenance pets out there :)
Alternatively, follow up my suggestion from the last post. Invite people over for a chat and a drink. Admittedly it's not the same as a flat-mate but it would provide temporary relief from potential boredom. See if you can meet up with Tina occasionally for a drink and a chat - she may prefer neutral territory than either house, but again it would provide the opportunity to meet with someone and enjoy their company - even if for only a few hours.
--Ben
As the right side of the brain controls the left side of the body, then only left-handers are in their right mind!
I don't understand
why you seem to be laboring under the misconception that Tina and I have an adversarial relationship. It isn't. It's quite the opposite. We are as close as sister to sister. Neither of us drink alcohol, and I have been sober for 30 some years. I have no problem with it's societal uses, but I choose to avoid it completely. Coffee, tea, or a soft drink will do just as well, I'm sure. The house is hers. She owns it. I will be a caretaker of sorts. We will remain very close friends, no matter whether or not we live together.
I get your point, but you seem to have missed mine. Tina and I have lived together for 18 years, platonically. I'm used to her and her daughter being around. Once she moves in with her boyfriend, her daughter will go with her, it will be just me. Coming home to an empty house will feel unnatural to me, and will require some getting used to, I am sure. That fact, combined with my uncertainty about my health is the main reason for my state of mind and thus, for my blog entry.
Thank you for caring, nevertheless. I do appreciate it.
Cathy
As a T-woman, I do have a Y chromosome... it's just in cursive, pink script.
I think we misunderstood each other...
Argh! The perils of text-based communication (and me being a fairly poor communicator anyway...)
I didn't think for one minute you and Tina had an adversarial relationship - since you've all lived together for 18 years you're all bound to be close, and I should have realised that you'll almost certainly meet up for the occasional coffee and chat even after she's moved out.
I think I said in my original post that it will be a major culture shock, going from having two others in the house to just you on your own - and nothing can fully compensate for that.
And when I suggested inviting other people round for a drink and a chat, I meant drink in the general sense (i.e. any consumable liquid), rather than the more specific sense of drinks containing ethanol. It was just a suggestion of one idea to help relieve potential boredom, and perhaps more importantly, the quietness / stillness of the house.
The important thing is to try and keep as positive as possible as often as possible, especially since you also have medical issues to contend with. And knowing you have a network of online contacts that encourage you and keep you in their thoughts - even if they can't be there in person or do anything practical - is a start!
--Ben
As the right side of the brain controls the left side of the body, then only left-handers are in their right mind!
I wish you the best Cathy
I hope things work out for you, that you're roomie will still be in your life for coffee and doing things together.
My dearest RL friend Anais and I lived together, and now she's married with a kid and another on the way,
and when we do manage to get see each other it's even more wonderful for being less frequent.
Though she has a family now we're still "sisters", still in each other's hearts as much
as ever, and I love seeing her happy and living a life she'd always dreamed of.
~~hugs, here's to the future, LAIKA
.
And I won't say anything about how what you need is a nice ROBOT girl pal, which you do but I won't say that.
(Mine looks and kind of talks like Gwen Stefani and can say, "Whassap, Girlfriend?" and "I don't know what
I'd do without you in my life, Veronica!" and "No that outfit doesn't make your butt look big."
and "Gee, that's fascinating, tell me more...")
And remember...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ifLqzLEB3E0
I knew
I knew when I transitioned and moved North seven years ago that I'd be living on my own. I cultivated a network of friends - and I didn't make the mistake of throwing away all my friendships with trans-folk as some do. If a friend is a friend, their anatomy, their history or their sexual orientation doesn't matter to me at all.
I don't have any other relationships and, initially, I found that a little hard to come to terms with, particularly having lived with someone else for the previous 57 years. I don't have a pet (even a robotic one) although I have had dogs in the past.
I have friends and acquaintances all over the world but I've had to develop those relationships, by being the kind of person that they want to know.
Neighbours are good; they keep an eye out for me, as I do for them.
It can be tough, but rewarding.
I realise that living alone isn't for everyone, but at present it is for me. If the right partner (not necessarily sexual) came along, then I might reconsider, but I'm happy enough at the moment.
The main thing is to do what makes you happy. If you're a social animal, then you have to make social relationships. I consider myself to be very fortunate; I am content living on my own, despite various medical conditions that make this challenging, but I have lots of friends with whom to socialise.
I do hope that my experience is helpful to you.
Susie