It's been an odd evening for me.

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As the title says, it's been a bit of an odd evening for me.

WARNING: Four of the six songs here are about death, abuse and troubled lives. One features a disabled child, the last is about heartache.

Interestingly, one song is also about a gift passed down that made a positive difference, two more are about a child's life becoming happier.

I've been dealing with a migraine that started a little over a day ago and is showing no signs of ending soon. That makes me more likely to be slightly irritable, and me being irritable is not a good thing, so I've been listening to music to help me relax, something I do fairly often.

What is odd is that, over the course of the last twelve hours or so, I've heard about half a dozen songs, each one of which is likely to have me tearing up, sometimes actually crying a bit. To be more explicit, I very rarely cry, damp eyes is about as bad as it usually gets for me.

Well, over that equivalent period of time, I might be 'lucky' to normally hear two, maybe three of these songs in a day of listening.

Not today. I heard all of the six following songs. With songs that I like, I tend to sing along, and these six songs are all ones that I like a lot. The simple fact is that each of these songs often hits me in the heart hard enough that my voice breaks while the song is still playing.

That doesn't stop me from continuing to sing them. What can I say, I'm an extremely stubborn cuss in a lot of ways.

Anyway, here are the six songs that had me on the edge of tears and losing my voice briefly due to having my heart in my throat tonight:

1) Randy Travis' Three Wooden Crosses, this one gets me just about every time around the second chorus;

2) John Michael Montgomery's The Little Girl, this one hits me at the point where the little girl is in the church on Sunday for her first church service, points to a painting and says that he (Jesus) was with her on the night that her father killed her mother, then himself;

3) Elvis Presley's In The Ghetto, two versions of this, one just Elvis, the other Elvis with his daughter Lisa Marie, both had me nearly crying;

4) Vince Gill's When I Call Your Name, I'm not sure just why this one hits me the way it does, but it does almost every time;

5) Martina McBride's Concrete Angel, this one always has me losing it for a brief moment where the girl gets killed in the song; and

6) Red Sovine's Teddy Bear, this one almost always makes my eyes damp when it gets to where all the truckers are giving him rides.

You may notice that these songs are all country music. That is what I was raised on and what I seem to prefer to listen to nowadays.

Are there songs, not listed here, that just grab your heart and pull out the tears? Especially tears that you NEED to cry?

I'm generally easy going, but I'm also apt to be very blunt at times. It takes a heck of a lot to make me angry, even more to make me cry, but there are times when I'm right on that edge where the anger is just an eye blink away or the tears are a heartbeat away from falling.

Tonight, I had damp eyes after each of these songs. That in itself is a rarity for me, but one that I was pleasantly surprised by. Pleasantly, you ask? Well, on most occasions, I might get to the damp eyes part once, tonight it happened with each of these songs.

I can't recall a time in my life where I ever had tears in my eyes so often in one waking period. Maybe this is helping me to heal somehow?

Meh, sorry for all the blathering, I just felt like chatting about this before I forget it. With my leaky memory, that could be tomorrow. *sigh*

Comments

Re: I had the same problem

Thanks for the reply, efin. The difficulty for me is that I CAN'T cry it out, I almost never get past the damp eyes stage.

The exception to that is, as I said in the blog, when I become extremely upset or distressed about something. I've had one cry like that in the last twelve months, that one being in mid-January of last year after I had a nasty dream with flashbacks involving my adoptive father.

I wrote a lengthy blog shortly after I woke up that day, but had to wait until that afternoon before I could see a mental health counsellor. The nearly 90 minute chat with that person helped me to settle down enough that I was soon on a fairly even keel again.

It's a darn good thing that I was able to see that mental health worker. Without her, I might have ended up on a psych ward for 72 hrs.

I also need to note that, in a comment on that blog I posted early last year, I stated I cried or nearly did so several times that day. That would mean that tonight's experience was not the first time it has happened, and tonight was not due to flashbacks about my childhood.

Granted, #2 and #4 both remind me of what I experienced way back then, but they didn't trigger anything more than a few tears.

Re: I'm sorry for misinterpreting it.

No need for an apology. The suggestion to cry it out was completely appropriate. A really good cry can work wonders.

It's not your fault that you didn't know that I almost never cry like that. So again, no need for an apology.

You have my heartfelt thanks for showing support. I hope your new year goes well. *hugs*

I have a song

Patricia Marie Allen's picture

I can't even think about Steven Curtis Chapman's "Cinderella'' without the waterworks starting to flow. He wrote the song in 2008 just after his 5-year-old daughter ran in front of their SUV his son was driving and was killed.

I've raised two Cinderella's and my daughter raised another. To me there's nothing more precious than a daughter or granddaughter and I could never not respond to any of them when they wanted my attention.

Hugs
Patricia

Happiness is being all dressed up and HAVING some place to go.
Semper in femineo gerunt

I grew up on sad songs

for those times I needed to cry, a sad song would help me get the tears started. the album "The Hurting" by Tears for Fears was one I would listen to again and again, when i needed sad songs. Evenescence's album "Fallen" also does that for me, as does Supertramp's "Crime of the century" album.

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a good cry... it's therapeutic

I often seek out some sad songs and have a good cry... it's therapeutic.

Kris

{I leave a trail of Kudos as I browse the site. Be careful where you step!}

Not much for country music myself,

but I know all about songs that make you cry :) That said, I'll only give two examples right now:

Abney Park -- I Am Stretched On Your Grave

Third Eye Blind -- God of Wine

Both are melancholy, but achingly beautiful as well (at least to me: my opinion of 3EB tends to be a bit better than a lot of other folks'.)

YouTube links:

I Am Stretched On Your Grave: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yMcTdi1PJ-4

God of Wine: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H0H5uFDDi3c

Melanie E.

just my song

sugar_britches63's picture

the one that gets me is by chris young it is called field of stone. It's about a man tht was drunk got into an accident and his love was killed, and how he got his life back together. I lose it everytime I hear it from beginning to end.

opinor ergo sum

Charlotte Van Goethem

Correction to earlier

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I incorrectly stated the song as field of stone but it is actually FLOWERS and from his first album I think.

opinor ergo sum

Charlotte Van Goethem

Tear jerkering songs

Four came to immediate mind (although I had to do a web search for details)

"Riding With Private Malone" - David Ball

"If You Get There Before I Do" - Collin Raye

And a couple of obscure references:

"I'm not ready" (from a musical "My Turn On Earth") written by Carol Lynn Pearson.

The eponymous theme song from the same play.

Associations are so strong with these that hearing the first few bars will start the eye-wettiing.

~~~

Odd, isn't it, how once a thought train starts, it just keeps rolling. Another one the gets almost instant tears:

"Leader Of The Band" - Dan Fogelberg

Best regards,
Deni

Thanks to everyone who commented here.

Patricia, I've never heard the song "Cinderella" before now. I just listened to it, gods, that's a beautiful and evocative song. Watching the images in the background gave me shivers at 'seeing' the girl and woman that was never to be. Thanks for the recommendation.

Dot, I listened to the song "The Hurting" a moment ago, I plan to listen to the album in a little while.

It's been a while since I listened to Evanescence's album "Fallen" and much, much longer since I listened to Supertramp's "Crime of the Century" album. I'll be listening to both of those albums shortly. Thanks for the recommendations.

Melanie, I listened to both of those songs. I'd never heard of Abney Park before, but that was an amazing song, and I will definitely be listening to more of their music soon. While listening to it, I could actually feel it as if I were right there on the edge of that grave. Eerie!

I'm not sure why, but the Third Eye Blind song didn't catch me the way the Abney Park one did. It was worth a listen.

Sugar_Britches, like other songs here, I'd never heard that one before. Gods, what a message, darn good song that grabs one's heart.

Deni, "If You Get There Before I Do" is often recognized as "Love, Me". It's a song that I love to listen to fairly often. Like the songs that I listed in the blog posting above, that one is one that can bring me to that point of nearly crying, the damp eyes bit, ya know?

I listened to "Riding With Private Malone" by David Ball, all I can say about that one is WOW! The car driver in the song was a very lucky person in the end to have had that soldier's ghost pull him out of the fiery wreck, and thus in the process save his life. Brilliant! Loved it.

The points in the song where he 'feels' the private riding next to him had me on the edge of my seat, quite enthralled.

"I'm Not Ready" by Carol Lynn Pearson sounded nice, but except for where she asks if it really is her time to go, the song didn't grab me at all.

"Leader Of The Band" by Dan Fogelberg is a very nice song, a beautiful one in fact, but like "I'm Not Ready", it didn't have that 'grab my heart' feeling. Even with that not being the case, Dan Fogelberg is an artist that I would listen to now and then.

3EB was important during a rough part of my life.

They're a group I listened to a lot in high school to help get through my depression, so a lot of their songs mean more to me emotionally than just the words/music can perhaps convey. I can understand it not being to others' tastes though, and I'm glad you liked the Abney Park track; it isn't entirely typical for their style, but it's far from the only track of its type in their category either.

Melanie E.