Sex Advice For A Transwoman

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Don't know how many of you are fans of Dan Savage, the sex advice columnist and gay rights activist, but his new sex-and-relationship-advice show on MTV, "Savage U," is one of my favorites. In episode 5, he sits down with and answers a question from Alexis, a transgender college student in Chicago. The segment begins at the 16 minute mark.

http://www.mtv.com/videos/savage-u-episode-5/1684029/playlis...

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MTV

To my knowledge, it's not available on YouTube (yet?) and MTV is controlling its release. If you can't get there through MTV's US site, perhaps there is a national outlet for it in your country. Failing that, if you're comfortable delving into a bit of hackery, you might do a little research on open proxies you can use with your browser to appear to be in the U.S.

I don't know how hard you should try to see it. It's only a couple minutes long, and it's nothing earth-shattering, really, just a sweet little interchange wherein Dan gives her some advice about dating and about confidence.

It's just one more reason not to...

...try watching MTV. That channel died 10 years ago. In last 5 years never happened to hear any music on MTV while channel surfing. Five years. Not one single song. On "music television". If in addition they don't want us third class people from outside of US, why bother with them at all?

Hey, Manic!

Gotta agree with you, if it's on MTV, it's not worth watching. And from what Ive heard of Savage, he's an ass anyway. As you say, "just one more reason not to try watching MTV." I'd take sex advice from a TV show about the same time I'd take birth control advice from Rush Limbaugh.


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George Carlin

Savage

You must be thinking of Michael Savage. Completely different person. :-)

Dan Savage is difficult to like, but this segment is good.

rebecca.a's picture

The example you gave is pretty good, Pippa. I don't have a problem with it at all. She's very sweet, and Dan Savage is unusually restrained in this segment. Thanks for the link :)

But he is a very polarizing figure. I can see why other people don't like him. Sometimes I like him because he says things no one else with a media profile will say. He's usually insightful. But he's also inclined to narrow thinking around the things that aren't in his own comfort zone.

His biggest failing, as I see it, is that he sometimes over-reaches, in the manner of Michael Moore, and when he does, if he apologizes at all it's actually a kind of non-apology. He'd rather up the ante to defend an indefensible thing he said in the heat of the moment than offer a genuine apology.

There was an article the other day on the Daily Beast that took him to task for offending Christians. Being a Jew turned atheist I don't actually have a huge problem with what he said, but I can see how offensive it might be to - for example - Jewish people, and I certainly wouldn't have said it the way he said it:

http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/05/03/is-dan-sava...

He apologized for the "pansy-assed" comment, but it seems like he doesn't mind if he over-reaches like this, so long as he gets attention. I mean, really - using a phrase like "pansy assed" in an audience of gay people? Puhleeeze.

And in the past he's offered more than his share of misogyny. He wouldn't be the only gay man in the world to behave like that, but civilized people tend to try to have some sensitivity toward the feelings of significant minorities, even if they don't like those minorities.

Maybe I'm too much of a wuss to take on the conservatives, and I should admire Savage for doing it. Maybe we need an anti-Rush-Limbaugh. That doesn't mean I have to like him any more than I like Limbaugh when he commits similar offences.

Anyway, none of that behaviour is evident in the clip you referenced, so thanks for sharing it. I hope Alexis gets things worked out.


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It's always so funny looking on "religious" people

Levels of their insecurity in their beliefs is tremendously amazing. People who leave just because someone sayd "bullshit" about some part of the bible... They are quite weak-behinded ;-)
Real believers will not be offended by one true comment. And insecure people will be offended by anything that is not exactly matching their prejudices.
The article you've linked is quite a study in itself. Study in how you should not write hate stuff if you want to convince intelligent people.

Not going to disagree with you about the quality of the article

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I didn't link to the article because I thought it was well written - just as an example of how people get upset. As I mentioned, I'm an atheist myself.

And yeah, you're right. Hatin' on the club is not the way to win convince anyone with a brain.


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Trans voices

One of the transwomen in the video was absolutely authentic "looking". Her voice was off putting and I feel sorry for her. My voice used to be very deep, I mean really deep. However, I worked hard on it for years, starting out with a falsetto that stunk, but not giving up. It did not take a lot of money and I had no surgeries, and now days I am never rumbled because of it. It took a lot of effort to learn to sing my words, pitch higher, and learn to sound a bit like Tokyo Rose. It does pay off eventually.

Please cut her some slack

rebecca.a's picture

Do you mean the girl who had been on hormones only 2 years? I think criticizing her voice is a bit unfair. It took me at least 3 years to get my voice right. It's not easy for everyone, especially if you don't have a lot of feedback from people.


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