It's getting closer.
Lots of phone calls and emails today.
My usual solicitor is back in the country and at his desk. He has agreed this is an urgent case and my reasons for wanting custody are valid.
I've had to write a statement for the hearing, 1500 words in one hour. My daughter's school however has gone back through its records and pulled out all the attempts to speak to social services, the phone records and emails are now with my solicitor.
They have also brought the community police officer into the school. No news on how that went yet.
I've also been told that the head & deputy head of my daughter's school have written to my solicitor stating, in their opinion, that the children are not safe with the ex and that I should have custody. The deputy head was my son's teacher for two years (before he switched schools) and knows him well.
I've now started talking about pulling my boy from his current school and have warned my contact there. The head there, however, wouldn't answer my calls. I've sent her PA an email asking for urgent contact.
I have now made outline arrangements to collect both of my children tomorrow (Weds) assuming that the hearing happens tomorrow. Of course, the ex knows nothing of this otherwise she would skip town. Police action is now quite possible after the children have been removed. My daughter's antagonists will be interviewed, I will make certain of that. They can also expect being thrown out of their school.
As I have said before - Don't Under-Estimate Me - if only the ex had realised that.
Topsy
It's horrible that all this
It's horrible that all this is happening, but hopefully it will have a happy ending for all three of you. Good luck!
Saless
"But it is also tradition that times *must* and always do change, my friend." - Eddie Murphy, Coming To America
Good Luck!
Between you, your solicitor and your daughter's school, your side has amassed a huge body of evidence - now you've just got to hope those with the decision making power make the right decisions.
There are 10 kinds of people in the world - those who understand binary and those who don't...
My relief for you is tempered with the knowledge
of how much you've struggled in so many aspects of your life. It is to your supreme credit that you are contributing here and taking care of your own needs and have found the strength to battle for your kids; your most precious part of your life. You have my admiration and my prayers.
She was born for all the wrong reasons but grew up for all the right ones.
Con grande amore e di affetto, Andrea Lena
and then you still have to decide what to do. ― C.S. Lewis
Love, Andrea Lena
Cautionary comment
Perhaps it is not wise to discuss these things on an open board where your ex or her solicitors may find them and perhaps use them in evidence against you for reasons such as:
undermining her parental authority
working in concert with others without her knowledge to 'steal her children'
violating in any part an existing court order
While I am far from an attorney I would highly recommend that you delete this and any other postings regarding your children and the actions you have taken or plan to take and any claims as to the actions of your former spouse.
I would at least ask your solicitor for his opinion of postings such as these if you don't.
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I get the impression you think
that I am in agreement with the possibilities I suggested your ex's solicitors might use. Nothing could be farther from the truth. I did feel it was prudent to mention the inherent dangers in discussing what's going on in a public forum (and figured if you agreed that my comments would disappear with the posts).
Commentator
Hoping for the Best Possible Outcome
Hoping for the Best Possible Outcome, you certainly deserve to see this come together . Most importantly it sounds like you have the children's best interests at heart unlike your ex has shown through neglect and abuse.
I hope to hear good news in 2 or 3 days
Not tomorrow, because if you win, you owe it to the kids to spend tomorrow and tomorrow night with them, not us.
It’s not given to anyone to have no regrets; only to decide, through the choices we make, which regrets we’ll have,
David Weber – In Fury Born
Holly
It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice.
Holly