I'm looking for a new home ... For Sephrena.

I've been taking care of Seph for about 8 months now and it has become apparent that she's just not happy here. There are several reasons why she's not happy, and they are things that I can't change.

First problem; She needs someone to take care of her that doesn't work swing shift or doesn't work at all; retired or independently wealthy would be great for her.

My life isn't normal by any stretch of the imagination. I work from 3pm (sometimes noon if needed), to 11pm (or later if needed). So by the time I get unwound from work and able to get to sleep it's about 2am; usually not getting up until 9 or 10. This means that I have no evenings free, no social life, and if I'm not available to take her out she doesn't get out. There have been stretches of 2, 3, up to 4 weeks where she hasn't set foot outside, because I've been so busy. Weekends you say? Not so my friends, I work 3 to 4 weekends a month to keep a former spouse and daughter fed.

Second problem; Sephy has sensitive ears and has a hard time sleeping if it’s not quiet.

One of my sons keeps two large dogs on my property. No problem for me, but how do dogs communicate? That's right, they open their mouth and bark. They bark when they need water or food. They when the neighbors are out in their yards. They bark late at night or early in the morning when the, white tail, dear wander through my yard; nibbling on my cherry or plum trees. They even bark simply because they want some attention.

Third problem; Remember what I said about Seph's ears? I live on Main Street in a small town, which is also a state highway. The big trucks rumbling through town don't bother me, but they drive Seph crazy. Not to mention during the spring, summer, and fall when the local Harley Davidson clubs go through town, about 20 or more bikes at a time.

Forth problem; Seph likes to drink coffee and an occasional beer. I'm 52 years old, and there's never been alcohol in my home and I don't see any reason to change that now. As for the coffee, the smell of it makes me sick.

Seph doesn't need a lot of space; an average sized bedroom would be larger that the one she's in here (8ft X 8ft plus closest). My humble abode is little more than an oversized garage. She does her own laundry and is willing to help out around the house. The furniture in her room is hers; I will either transport it to her new location in my truck (1200 miles or less), or arrange to ship it to her. And of course, she does need internet access, cable or DSL.

So, in general I'm looking for someone that has a more normal lifestyle, that lives in a quiet neighborhood, apartment building, or apartment complex, that would be willing to share their home with Sephrena. She does have an income, social security disability, and does pay rent; I won't say how much, that would be for the two of you to work out.

Speaking of apartments, if you are in a one bedroom and the building or complex that has two or three bedroom apartments available and you'd like to upgrade; with the two of you sharing expenses, that could work out.

There is another option, if there is some available one bedroom apartments in the same building, as yourself, that are reasonable priced. Although she will deny it, I believe Seph could live on her own, provided there was someone close by that is willing to visit frequently when she needs help with her back, going shopping or with other odds 'n ends.

I'm sure that most of you will agree that Sephrena is loved and appreciated by many of us, and everyone deserves the right to be happy in there day to day lives. So, with everyone looking for options I'm sure we can find Sephrena a home where she can be happy and enjoy life.

You can send PM's to Sephrena or me with your ideas or suggestions. Hopefully an understanding angel is out there, among our Big Closet family, which can help out our unhappy friend.

Huggs & Giggles
Penny Reed Cardon

New Update:
I just returned home from dropping Seph at the Salt Lake Airport, she's flying up to Seattle to help take care Chelsea after her operation. To my surprise, I found that Seph's room is empty, as in, her furniture is gone. I found out many hours later that Seph had been secretly sending her books back to Virginia. Her furniture was sold to someone in the valley. I guess she was more unhappy than I realized. I don't know what her plans are, I only know she didn't talk to me about her future plans. All I can say is: Good bye Seph, good luck and my you find the happiness that you seek.